The
last month or so (I'm scared to check and see how long it's really
been), Boo has been more confused, more easily upset and
definitely needier emotionally. As much as I love him and want to
meet his needs, sometimes I need a break. You know, to take a bath,
to make dinner, to sit in silence, to just be.
Even when I can convince Boo that I need a little time, he's still
uneasy.
A
few days ago when discussing my need to take a bath again,
Boo announced that if he could just hear my voice it would help.
Ahh...maybe cloning myself...except I don't think the
world is really ready for two of me! Then, it occurred to me that a
recording of my voice might be helpful. Actually, I was ready to try
anything at that point.
We
discussed what Boo might like on a CD and he had some definite
opinions. He wanted some poems, some Scripture, a few Chicken
Soup type stories, the prayers
we're concentrating on this month, music and some jokes. Mostly, he
wanted the simple routine things that make up his day. That was
doable.
For
the next couple of days I recorded bits and pieces of our day. It
was pretty simple and not intrusive as I'd imagined. Then I chose a
few songs and excerpts of two pieces of classical music that Boo
likes. Using very basic software provided with my computer, I
prepared a CD for Boo. The volume is iffy in several places and
there are awkward pauses at times. Still, it's start.
Day
before yesterday and yesterday, I was actually able to get a few
things done on my own. Boo was not only content to listen to his CD,
he really looked forward to it. I wish we'd thought of this sooner.
Here's
what we finally included: our morning prayers that include the two
prayers we're concentrating on this month, a saint story, poems from
lunch with Boo reciting several of them, five songs that Boo likes,
four Chicken Soup type
stories, a decade of the rosary that we prayed together, two excerpts
of classical music that he likes and a conversation we had that I
didn't realize I'd recorded. I completely forgot a scripture reading
and jokes. Still, it's just a homey, familiar CD and very useful.
Why
didn't this occur to me earlier? Boo, like many with dementia,
thrives on routine, consistency and repetition. Lots of repetition.
I think with our next CD, I'll try including a couple of our friends
too. Maybe a short conversation between Boo and friends would be
comforting. Later, I'd like to include some grandchildren as well.
This type of CD might also useful at the hospital to provide a
familiar background and to drown out hospital noises.
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